Wow .

Honestly , ever wondered what Relationships are for ?

When you got into one , im sure you had thoughts .
Or maybe you didnt , maybe you liked the girls so much you didnt had time to think of why .

Well here’s a perfect answer .

The purpose of a Relationship ,
Is to test out whether the existing parties are marriage material .

Honestly , i couldn think of a better one .

With that , Doesnt it change a whole lot of a person’s perspective ?

Besides being blinded by “love” , what if you knew that the purpose of Getting into a relationship was to test out whether she’s the one for you .

And knowing that , what if you knew she’s not the one from the beginning ,
But you’re yet attracted to her .

Mostly people cant understand the two similar but oh so different things in a relationship .

Being ONLY Attracted means you cant resist the person , but you’re not comfortable with her , mostly cuz she’s just being a bitch and using you .
Being ONLY Comfortable means , well , literally , means you’re comfortable with the person , but you’re not so attracted to her though .

So what happens when i mix the two together ?

Love ? Pretty Much .

But 91% of All relationships only survives on one of the above factor .

Either you’re just plainly attracted to the girl , and for most Singaporean males , mainly for her looks ,
Or You’re comfortable with having her in your life , that fuzzy warm feeling .

Think of your past relationships ,
What seriously attracted you to her ? Looks &/or personality
Or was it mainly just a comfort play ,
cuz you just pretty much like the thought of knowing that someone likes you .

What if , you’ve been with a girl for 5 years .
and after that , she met a guy in a club , who she’s more attracted to , and after some talking ,
she realized shes more comfortable was able to build more of a connection with him thdn of you because you have your weird quirks .
She knew from the start that you werent pretty much THE ONE , but she’s just waiting and hanging on to see if you were the best that life could offer .
So She pretty much just found a reason to leave you .
And she did .

and there you go , 5 years of your life . Gone .
Especially when you’re one of those boyfriends who couldn leave her sight .

Well , consider that a blessing in Disguise .

Because , rather you waste those 5 years , and find out the truth ,
thdn to have married her , and find out 10 years down the road that you both actually was just in for the sex .
but thdn you couldn leave cuz you have 3 kids and a family to account to .
and thdn you would have no choice but to shackle yourself to this for the rest of your life .
and you’d love to try to see the brighter side of life . which often doesnt happen .

So , why are guys still out there still pretty much zombiefied love drunk machines ?
Cuz after they find out the heart wrenching truth ,
they took no action .
Its as if Life did them a favour and they are blaming God for it .

Dont blame the Gods for your her leaving you ,
Blame yourself for the inability to attract and build proper comfort with her .

Cuz just imagine that you can .
That you know exactly how to attract and build deep comfort with almost anyone you see .
Imagine you could be that guy in the club , who stole your girlfriend ( Named Gambit and Diablos ) , Just for a day .
How would life and ” Relationships ” turn out for you .

Cuz honestly , Gambit and I dont get into relationships .
No , we just dont .
Not cuz we dont wanna hear the orignal bullshit from girls ,
okay maybe we really dont ,
But more importantly its that we find no reason to .

You must know , that the same emotions can be generated whether or not you’re in a relationship .

Cuz almost certainly we know whether if she’s THE ONE straight away .
But we most certainly have mad ass standards .
cuz believe it or not , we ARE looking for the one .
Its seriously not bout the looks ,
Well , it was , but now that we get surrounded by them almost every other day ,
Not bragging , but seriously , its overrated .

She’s a Daredevil
A feisty smart ass who’d be able to have witty comeback lines all the time .
Who genuinely makes me laugh , who doesnt give a fuck bout what the world thinks ,
and probably she would be able to make a tazer out of a disposable camera just to electrocute the shit out of me ,
She jumps and bites me for no apparent reason , and in the ballroom she’d still be able to sparkle like a star .
Oh , and did i mention she’s probably a kickass musician , and looks like a victoria secret’s model .
Except that she’s also profoundly in love with philosophy and that she’s an avid artist of Literature .

Well that’s just to name a few ,
As you can see , unless its a precise mixed clone of Angelina Jolie , Cheryl Cole , and Katy Perry , im not giving in .

Nor am i marrying the HB 8 i met , dated , and made out with last week .

To meet a girl like that , what are the chances huh ?
But chances are , we have the equal amout of chance to meet THE ONE .

So what if you did meet THE ONE .

At the rate the typical Singaporean dude is going .
Would you know what to do ?
How the hell are you going to attract her ?
Not to even mention having a sweet relationship with your soulmate standing right in front of you  .

If you arent going to improve your social skills to maintain a girl like her .
Chances are you wont get her .
That you will settle for much less of what you want ,
and end up Marrying one of the next 10 confused girlfriends you’re going to have for the next 10 years of your life .
Pretending  SHE’S THE ONE .

Relationships , why get into them when you know she’s not the one ?
Like i said ,
You must know ,
that the same emotions or even more ,
can be generated whether or not you’re in a relationship .

And If , THE ONE and you dont work out .
Its perfectly fine .
There’s more THE ONE to come .

Point is , get into a relationship only if you seriously mean it .
If not , dont waste your time .
Go make yourself a better man so that when the one DO past by .
You’d know exactly what to do ;]

With Love ,
& Rockefella

Diablos

Executive Coach
Charm Dynamics .

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